Ok, this novel got me thinking…
Thinking about my brother and a relationship he had. An ex. She was a free spirit of sorts. She worked hard and played harder. As their relationship grew, a friend pointed out that my brother really wasn’t the ex’s type. Really? Why? Well, she usually goes for men who are “unattached” - no career, no real prospects, you know, the ski bum type. Well that certainly wasn’t my brother. She continued…she looks for men who can drive the boat. The boat? She loves to waterski, and needs someone to drive the boat. Men who can work around her schedule and are available whenever she wants to ski.
That brings me back to the novel and relationships. Do we seek out people who give us a sense of safety when we feel untethered? Do we look for a partnership? Are we seeking simple companionship? Or are we happy just being the boat driver?
BUT, what if we suddenly realize we don’t want to drive the boat? Then what? What if we want to be lifted up instead of being pushed down? Where do we find the courage to flip the script? How do we know when we’ve found what we were looking for all along?